Screening of “In My Country” on Saturday, December 3

Hi everyone,

Last June, a few of you were at my house for a screening of “In My Country”.  This film is based on the true life accounts of journalists covering the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in post-Apartheid South Africa.  One reason I have always liked the film is that it does a great job of illustrating what Ubuntu really means.

Among those in attendance that night were, Isaac, Wai and Simon, friends from the Sudanese-American community living in San Diego.  Also with us that evening, Awichu, a new friend originally from Uganda.  As I looked around the room that night, I realized there were only a couple of us that had been born in the U.S.  With life stories based in many different countries, the conversation after the film that night spontaneously took on some of the toughest issues we face in this life:

  • What does it take to heal?
  • How do we manage to genuinely forgive?
  • Is reconciliation always possible?
  • How do those themes get applied when entire countries have been torn apart for decades?

After the great experience of exploring “Ubuntu” together, it was Simon that was the first to suggest we screen the film for their community down in San Diego. We are going to do that on Saturday, December 3rd, and we would really like for you to come join us that night.  All details are below and on the website.


Barbara English
Living Ubuntu
(949) 891-2005


Screening of “In My Country”

Screening of "In My Country"

What does it take to heal deep wounds and get to genuine peace and reconciliation?

Watch the trailer »

South Africa 1996.  The government has established the Truth and Reconciliation Commission to investigate abuses of human rights during the Apartheid regime.  These hearings serve as a forum for those accused of murder and torture to be confronted by their victims…

Saturday, December 3
4p Potluck
5p Screening and discussion

St. Luke’s Episcopal Church
3725 30th St.
San Diego, CA

Join us for an evening of food, conversation and contemplation.
We will have homemade Sudanese food at the potluck. Feel free to bring a dish :)

For more information, visit

Any questions? Please contact us at or (949) 891-2005.

“A beautiful and important film about South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission. It will engage and influence not only South Africans, but people all over the world concerned with the great questions of human reconciliation, forgiveness, and tolerance.”
– Nelson Mandela

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South Sudan Independence Celebration this Sunday, July 10th

Hi everyone,

South Sudan Independence Celebration in San Diego this Sunday, July 10th. Click for more details.

A mere five days after our own 4th of July celebration of Independence Day in the U.S., the world’s newest country will arrive.  This Saturday, July 9th, South Sudan will officially be a new, independent nation.  To mark this historic occasion, the Sudanese community in San Diego is planning a massive celebration this Sunday, July 10th.

Here are the details:

South Sudan Independence Celebration: FREE!!
Sunday, July 10th
1:00p – 8:00p

St. Luke’s Episcopal Church
3725 30th Street, San Diego, CA

Program includes: Music, traditional Sudanese dances, speeches from community leaders, performances by the Sudanese youth, home-cooked Sudanese food and more… Over 400+ people are expected at this event.  Click here for more information.

Independence comes with a mixture of sentiments.  Cause for celebration is inter-mingled with knowing that these remain times of tragic suffering and great uncertainty for many in various parts of Sudan. This weekend we come together in support of the Sudanese people and hold hope for peace and healing.  One way to demonstrate that support is to attend one or more of the events (see below) they have planned in San Diego.  We hope you will join us at the festivities this weekend.

Unfortunately, we’re double-booked on Sunday and will be the late-arrivers in San Diego after our Summer Body Group: Finding Your ‘No’ in the afternoon.  There are a few from Orange County who will be driving down for the celebration.  If you’d like to carpool, please get in touch with us. 

Hope you can make it.

Barbara & Anshul
Orange County for Darfur, a project of Living Ubuntu
(949) 891-2005
| blog | facebook

PS:  We are extremely grateful to GI-Net / Save Darfur for their support of this event.  Thank you :)


Friday July 8, South Sudan Independence Live Broadcast
9p-12a.  Sudanese American Youth Center in San Diego
Click here for more info »

Saturday July 9, South Sudan Independence Day Party
9p-2a.  World Beat Center, San Diego, CA
Come and enjoy the Biggest African Party of the Year and lets kick off the summer with an event that screams Africa, at the one and only World Beat Center.  Find out more »

Sunday July 10th, South Sudan Independence Day Celebration: FREE!
1p-8p.  St Luke’s Episcopal Church, San Diego, CA
The Sudanese Community would like to invite you to this family-friendly event to celebrate the new South Sudan’s Republic.  Click here for more info »

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Get-together at Barbara’s house (Saturday, June 18th)

Hi everyone,

While we have done several events this year, we didn’t get a chance to talk with many of you the way we wish we could have.  As we head into summer, we have decided to have a casual get-together at Barbara’s house on Saturday, June 18th.  Hopefully this will give us a chance to sit, talk and relate around what it has been like to be a part of this campaign against genocide.

The theme will be Ubuntu.  Desmond Tutu says part of Ubuntu is, “You share what you have”.  In keeping with that, it will be a vegetarian potluck.  We will also be screening the film, In My Country (trailer) based on a journalist’s account of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation hearings after apartheid, which were based on Ubuntu.  Given the name of the organization, we are always looking to keep in touch with the true meaning of the word.

Anyway, here are the details.

Get-together at Barbara’s house
Aliso Viejo, CA
Saturday, June 18th 
5p vegetarian potluck
7p screening of “In My Country”

In order to not broadcast the address on the internet, please RSVP to or 949.891.2005 and we will send it to you :)

We would really like a chance to get to know you better and sincerely hope you will join us.


Barbara & Anshul
Orange County for Darfur, a project of Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

Talk with Tim Aye Hardy about Burma (Wednesday, June 8th at 6:30p)

Hi everyone,

Tim Aye Hardy

"I was one of the lucky few. Up to 6,000 innocent protesters were gunned down, and many more were imprisoned or mysteriously disappeared in the night. I lost many colleagues and close friends." - Tim Aye Hardy.

Recently, TIME magazine featured an article with headline, UN Envoy: Burma Not Addressing Abuse.  Not that this is news, as the abuses within Burma are long-standing and ongoing.  In April, the Obama administration finally complied with a portion of the Jade Act signed into law in 2008 and appointed a Special Envoy to Burma, Derek Mitchell.  As calls for a Commission of Inquiry continue, how much of a difference will this recent appointment (presuming he is confirmed by US Senate) make for Burma?

Our thanks goes out in advance to our dear friend, Tim Aye Hardy, from the Burma Global Action Network.  Some of you may recall Tim from when he was with us in person for an event last July.  He has graciously agreed to give us an update, walking us through the twists and turns of the current situation in Burma.

At our next meeting on Wednesday, June 8th at 6:30p, Tim, who lives in NYC, will join us via Skype.  This special meeting will be held in Lake Forest instead of our usual location.  Here is the address:

Talk with Tim about Burma
Wednesday, June 8th @ 6:30p in Lake Forest, CA
(If you’d like to attend, please contact us at (949) 891-2005 or and we will send you the address)

We have limited space for this meeting.  Hope you can join us.


Barbara & Anshul
Orange County for Darfur, a project of Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

Today April 17th, remembering the Cambodian Genocide

Hi everyone,

Click here to see our recommendations of good books and films about the Genocide in Cambodia

Have you seen the film “Small Voices: The Stories of Cambodia’s Children”?  If ever we needed a reminder that when a genocide ends, it doesn’t really end, this film provides it.  Some on this list might not be old enough to recall when the “Killing Fields” took place.  Yet when we hear the stories of the children, we recognize that the Khmer Rouge’s destruction is not a thing of the past as tens of thousands of children in Cambodia today are still suffering, and struggling to survive.  How often do we really open ourselves enough to absorb and deeply feel what it must be like for these children, so young, longing for love, leading a life that would terrify most adults, with no one on this earth available to turn to for help?

April 17th marks the start of the Cambodian genocide.  On this day in 1975, the Khmer Rouge marched into Phnom Penh, the capital of Cambodia.

When the Khmer Rouge took control of the Cambodian government in 1975, they declared the beginning of a new age dedicated to a peasant-oriented society. After outlawing education, religion, healthcare and technology, the Khmer Rouge ordered the evacuation of Cambodia’s cities and forced these residents to labor without adequate food or rest. At the same time as summarily executing those who were unable to keep up, the Khmer Rouge began to target suspected political dissidents. These citizens, including doctors, teachers and those suspected of being educated were singled out for torture at the notorious Tuol Sleng prison. In four years, between 1.7 and 2 million Cambodians died in the Khmer Rouge’s ‘Killing Fields’.

– from GI-Net / Save Darfur Coalition [link]
As we continue through the month of April, taking note of California’s first official Genocide Awareness and Prevention Month, our Resource List on Cambodia is available to make it easier for you to find books and films, allowing the stories of Cambodians to become part of you.  We remember the atrocities. We remember those killed. We remember those who survived, but endured torturous sufferings in order to do so. We remember the next generation born into Cambodia, portrayed in the film… and we know we must not only end genocide, but prevent it, knowing that otherwise the atrocities live on within the living and endure into the next generations.

May we find our path to healing in this world… together.  For today, we remember the people of Cambodia.

Barbara & Anshul
Orange County for Darfur, a project of Living Ubuntu
| blog | facebook

Today April 5th, remembering the Bosnian Genocide

Hi everyone,

Srebrenica Bodies

Click here to see our recommendations of good books and films about the Genocide in Bosnia.

April is here and as you are likely aware by now, it is the very first time the state of California has given it the official designation as Genocide Awareness and Prevention Month.  In honor of this, we have compiled a Resource List of books and films themed around each of the past genocides that have commemorative dates in April, plus the areas that we cover.  We will be sending you emails this month noting each of the commemorative dates and encouraging you to make use of the Resource List as a way to both remember these genocides, and learn more about them.

April 5th marks the start of the Bosnian Genocide. On this day in 1992, the government of Bosnia declared its independence from Yugoslavia, which immediately prompted the Bosnian leaders to launch a war to create a separate state.  An estimated 100,000 people were killed 80% of which were ‘Bosniak’ civilians was eventually labelled a genocide.

In the late-1980’s, the heterogeneous Yugoslav federation began to cleave along ethnic lines. Civil war erupted in 1992 against a backdrop of increasingly nationalist politics, including the idea of “Greater Serbia”. Between 1992 and 1995, Serbs, Croats and Bosniaks soldiers and paramilitaries used widespread use of rape, torture and forcible displacement against civilians. The actions of some Serb units were particularly heinous, featuring attempts to eliminate non-Serb culture, a tactic soon to be known as “ethnic cleansing”. Across Bosnia and Herzegovina civilians were herded into camps as small scale massacres were committed. The most notorious of these was the Srebrenica massacre of July 1995, when more than 7,500 Bosniak men and boys in the U.N.-safe area, were executed by forces under General Radko Mladic. The estimates for the human cost of the Bosnian civil wars range from 96,000 to 200,000, with a recent University of Washington-Harvard University study placing the fatalities near 167,000.

– From GI-Net / Save Darfur Coalition [link]
Click here to see our recommended list of books and films about the Bosnia Genocide.

As we approach this remembering, there is no getting away from the horror that is inextricably linked to genocide. Yet, in contrast to the utter inhumanity of genocide, it is hard to point to anything more genuinely human than the act of remembering.  When we remember, we demonstrate the willingness the hold another in mind and absorb their story allowing it to become part of us.  We hope you will use this Resource List on Bosnia as a way to learn more of the stories.

On this day, holding the people of Bosnia in our hearts,

Barbara & Anshul
Orange County for Darfur, a project of Living Ubuntu
| blog | facebook


Are we too busy to be compassionate?

Hi everyone,

I recall a study on altruism that I read awhile ago.  It involved a bunch of seminary students.  They were divided into two groups and both were given instructions to go to another location.  One group was told they were late and needed to rush, the other group was not told that.  A person in distress was planted in their path as part of the experiment.  Can you guess which group was more apt to help the person in need? It wasn’t those who thought they were running late… (see “The Good Samaritan Study”).

I am concerned about many of the recent trends in our society, especially, the short and long term consequences of the gadget-ridden, multi-tasking, over-scheduled pace that has become the new norm.  We are all in a hurry, all of the time, and it is accepted like that is just the way it is.

What price do we pay in lost ability to respond compassionately when someone is genuinely in need of help? And what are we losing in self-awareness, close relationships, and the ability to think novel, creative thoughts?

The psychotherapist in me suspects there are deeper issues going on.  In our quest to evade the distress within, we stay distracted.  Yet the cumulative stress of chronic busy-ness in and of itself can create the same states in our bodies as actual traumatic experiences, thereby increasing distress.  It is a no-win cycle.

Our good friend Tarra Stariell will be in Orange County on Saturday, February 26 to present No time to think, No time to breathe… Is this me? Tarra is a psychotherapist in private practise with over 16 years of experience.  She specializes in working with trauma, auto-immune and dissociative disorders and we are delighted to have her present on this timely topic.  This workshop is a service to the community and no one will be turned away for lack of funds.  Please see our website for all details.


Barbara English
Living Ubuntu | blog | facebook

PS:  I hope to see you tomorrow (Saturday, Feb 12th) evening at the screening of On Our Watch, a powerful documentary about the ongoing genocide in Darfur.

PPS:  The irony of marketing two events in one post is not lost on me. :)

No time to think, No time to breathe…
Is this me?

Tarra Stariell

 No time to think, No time to breathe... Is this me?

presented by

Living Ubuntu
Southern California Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis

Saturday, February 26 2011
9:30a – 1:00p

Orange County, CA

Why is it so hard to keep up?  Where is the time for me?  Why do I feel so lost in my own life?

Join us for a workshop about our overwhelmed lives and how to find our way back to a healthy balance.
This is a not-for-profit event.  No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Advance registration is required. Please visit for more information.

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